If I ever met someone who genuinely hadn't changed postpartum -- including in their relation to their work/career -- I'd seriously consider whether or not they actually had a child. I wouldn't trust ANYONE who said, "I haven't changed postpartum" -- in truth, I'd run the other way. (People who rejoice in staying the same alarm me, whether a child is involved or not.)
Maybe you have shame about the ways you've changed, and that's something to notice and grant some attention (if only because it seems like it's taking up some of your valuable and finite energy), but from the outside, it's beautiful. Let me repeat that: from the outside, it's beautiful. Please keep letting motherhood -- and personhood, and your life -- change you. Constantly. Forever.
I hope when you're considering some things you might have lost by choosing a quieter, less-public life online, you can return to these thoughtful, introspective words and see all that you've gained in return.
And oof, this line: "I’m beginning to believe I’m a good mother." I feel this myself--on the good days--and it makes me weepy to see it on page.
If I ever met someone who genuinely hadn't changed postpartum -- including in their relation to their work/career -- I'd seriously consider whether or not they actually had a child. I wouldn't trust ANYONE who said, "I haven't changed postpartum" -- in truth, I'd run the other way. (People who rejoice in staying the same alarm me, whether a child is involved or not.)
Maybe you have shame about the ways you've changed, and that's something to notice and grant some attention (if only because it seems like it's taking up some of your valuable and finite energy), but from the outside, it's beautiful. Let me repeat that: from the outside, it's beautiful. Please keep letting motherhood -- and personhood, and your life -- change you. Constantly. Forever.
I woke up in the middle of the night with a to do list rumbling through my mind and I picked up my device to check the time.
I rummaged through my email inbox and this astonishing letter soothed my soul.
Your descriptions feel accurate and create an intimacy with your creative and reflective process.
It’s a piece I will share with friends and loved ones.
Your piece inspired me to consider removing myself off of social media to aim for the quiet.
Your painting of the Wedding Sari was dancing in my dreams as the medicine of your words settled the performing monkey mind.
✨Thank you, Meera✨
I hope when you're considering some things you might have lost by choosing a quieter, less-public life online, you can return to these thoughtful, introspective words and see all that you've gained in return.
And oof, this line: "I’m beginning to believe I’m a good mother." I feel this myself--on the good days--and it makes me weepy to see it on page.
I appreciated reading your reflections on artmaking and life. Thank you.
Remind yourself that you are inspirational to other people, because you are.
This letter really resonates. Thank you for sharing it.
So much to relate to here Meera - and it was so nice hearing your voice this week!